Frequently Asked Questions
Answering common questions about counselling in Barton-upon-Humber and online.
About Counselling & Therapy
What is counselling?
Counselling is a talking therapy where you meet with a trained professional to explore thoughts, feelings, and experiences in a safe, confidential, and non-judgemental space. Its purpose isn’t to tell you what to do or to “fix” you, but to help you:
- understand yourself better
- make sense of difficult emotions or situations
- develop coping strategies
- feel supported while finding your own answers
What does CBT mean?
CBT stands for cognitive behavioural therapy this is a form of therapy ....
If therapy has not worked for me before should I try again?
Each therapist is different, each stage of your life evolves and
Is returning to therapy bad?
Returning to therapy I feel is a check in with mental well-being, how could this possibly be a negative choice. Our minds are so complex, our life's are always changing, taking time for your own well-being is always the right choice.
Is therapy right for me if I don't know why I feel the way I do?
If your unsure why you feel the way that you do, therapy is absolutely the right choice. Let's work through this together.
Am I too old or too young?
I work with children, teenagers, adults, couples and old age pensionser. Your never too old to reflect and maintain mental well-being.
What does person centred mean?
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How will I know therapy is helping me?
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Starting Therapy & Feeling Nervous
What if I don't know what to say?
there is no script. I have worked with clients who are adults and children who present why, anxious, unable to meet eye contact and others who appear confident. We find a way to work together some clients prefer to bring something with them to distract them or a comforter of some kind.
What if I don't like talking because I feel socially awkward.
I believe that we all have ways we communicate, talking, joking, being creative, expression through music, play or reading dairy entries. Sharing out characters from films or books. I am confident we will find our way together. A lot of clients express this worry.
What if I don't like you?
there is no obligation to enter into or continue therapy if you choose not to.
I am worried I may uncontrollably cry
allowing yourself to process feelings is part of therapy some people feel sad, angry, frustrated, numb .... This is a passing emotion that we can work with if you want to.
I am afraid of coming into the building because my anxiety is so high.
I can send a video of the building pictures of the room and I've alwven sent introductory hellos to anxious
Can I have the 15 min call and is it free?
every potential client has the offer of a free 15minuwt informal contact by phone or video link. There is no obligation to continue therapy thereafter.
What if I don't have anything traumatizing to share and I nearly want to talk?
many people come to counselling with no agenda other than they want a free thinking space to reflect and share. Some clients are open to see where their journey goes with no agenda. Whereas others come with an agenda and idea of what they hope to achieve.
Sessions & How Therapy Works
how many sessions will I need?
this depends entirely on your involvement, willingness for change and individual wanta. Some clients attend for a set amount of time, some long term and some monthly check ins. Some clients attend weekly, biweekly and monthly. Some check in as and when after they feel therapy has finished for them.
Do we have a contract or agreement?
if you decide I am the right therapist for you I send across a therapy agreement which can be altered to meet needs with discussions.
What if I find that therapy doesn't work for me?
sometimes people do not 'click' and that's okay. There is no pressure to pursue any further sessions.
can we meet if I have other agency involvement
we can discuss what support you have in place and this all depends what agency it is.
It is not advisable to overlap therapists or techniques. It is not advisable to overlap CAMHS
Online screen
s ok me clients leave their screen off and like to see me only.
Confidentiality, Records & Safeguarding
Do I have to share everything with you?
you are in control of what you choose to and not too share with me.
Do you share what we talk about with anybody?
I have monthly supervisions with my supervisor this is an ethical requirement - I do not share identifying information.
Do you write about me and can I see these notes?
Every client has a unique 10 letter and digit reference to annonoymise your identity. Only myself and you know this.
How long do you keep records for?
I follow the advise if the NCPS and keep client records for 7 years.....children.....
Where are my details stored
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What are the conditions for sharing information without my consent first?
I am bound by ethical framework NCPS, I can only share content that is of harm to yourself or others, acts of terrorism, money laundering or criminal involvement.
Signing in and privacy
when entering the building there is a safety requirement to sign into the building however if your not comfortable Iwe can add plus one to my name or you can use an alternative name for signing in as long as I know what this is in case of an emergency.
Do you have to tell my GP or anyone else I am doing therapy?
I do not need to tell anybody you are in private therapy. I am bound by the confidentiality Act ...
Children, Teenagers & Families
Teenagers .....
Do you have to tell my parents
age ....
Do you offer child care? Can my children come in the therapy room.
Non mobile babies and breast feed babies are welcome.into the room. We will review how this is working as the baby grows.
I do.not offer childcare.
Practical Information
How do I pay?
Installments,
Payment methods are detailed in the client and counselor agreement.
Financial difficulty and reductions
if you are experiencing a financial difficulty and wish to continue therapy I already offer a reduced fee for..... There are some charities that will pay for sessions for you however this is for you to research.
Contact with you outside
our client and counselor agreement outlines the terms of contact outside of sessions and the limitations of this.
is there a dress code?
No, please dress however you feel comfortable.
can you call me my preferred name?
I am happy to address you by your preferred name theouuot our sessions together.
Cancellations
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Location & Accessibility
toilets, disabled toilets, baby changing, lifts, building access
waters edge is a disabled friendly building, we do meet one the second level however there is a lift you may use. Toilets for all are available on site.
parking and cost
parking is free at eatersedge visitor centre.
Communication & Language
any other language?
I only speak English and minimal Makatin. I cannot offer alternative languages. I am happy to work with a interpreter if you choose to bring with you.
Professional Standards
Are you police checked?
Yes, I have an enhanced disclosed check carried out by the Digital baring system DBS, I am on the yearly update service. A copy of this can be seen upon request.
Are you insured?
Yes, I am insured and covered by Everwhen Insurance for professional risks.
How do I complain?
before our initial paid session together complaint details and contacts and outlined on our client and counselor agreement. You keep a copy of this and cam access these details at any time.
Who Comes to Therapy
Do males attend?
Absolutely yes. For example my cases are approximately 60% female and 40% male most of the time.